My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date

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My Relationship Of 3 Years May End Because Of Wedding Date

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Taiwo Ayandeyi

Post By Taiwo Ayandeyi
2 months ago

I have dated this girl for three years. We fixed a date for the wedding for late this year. However, events seemingly out of my control necessitated that I shift the wedding to February next year. Initially, she was against the shift but I pleaded with her.

Sometime in August this year, we had a disagreement because I noticed she was being disrespectful towards me. She is hardworking, cooks well and is very business oriented. But her sense of independence makes her struggle with submission to her man. I told her how uncomfortable I was with it and she's promised to make amends. She has but from time to time, her old self comes out.

I was at a loss on what to do that I had to voice out the issue to her family. When they asked her, she told them that since I requested for a shift in wedding date, she became uncomfortable with the relationship. Her family then told her to call off the relationship. I got to know about this decision and I called her and she said she was going to obey the wishes of her family. Her mom also told me that since I keep complaining about her daughters lack of respect, I should leave her daughter alone. It took serious pleading from me before the family accepted the continuing of the relationship. They asked me that since the date I initially agreed for the wedding wasn't going to be convenient for me, when then do I think will be convenient? Since I didn't want to loose my woman, I mentioned February. The desperation on my path was much.

My mom on the other hand wants a wedding in April. She has said February is not convenient for her. All my pleas have fell on deaf ears. She has threatened not to bless the union and has even gone as far as threatening to curse me with her breasts if I wed in February.

My girl has refused to even entertain the thought of shifting the date again. She maintains that it is better that we outrightly call off the wedding, than shift it again. I understand her fears. She feels that I may just be wasting her time. I am not

This is my dilemma. Should I go with my woman who has spent three years of her life with me or do I go with my mom?

4 comments

Taiwo Ayandeyi

2 months ago

@Dura Johnson, Thank You For Your Response And Advice.

Taiwo Ayandeyi

2 months ago

@Delight Thank You For Your Insight And Explicit Advice.

Delight Delight

2 months ago

This is beyond anyone.
Great deal of wisdom is needed. Should I say the guy should be grateful that the lady is showing how much distrustful she could be later in the marriage? Or could it be that some things have warranted the ladies feeling of insecurity? As much as it is not a justifiable reason to start throwing attitude up to the extent of not wanting to marry the guy because he postponed the wedding, I think it is something to look into.
On the part of the parents, could it also be because they have their reservations all along and they thought this could be the best time to shoot? Cos if you ask me, your child's decision should be respected as He is old enough (it only shows how much of an interference they will be even after their children are married). As per the lady's mother, could it be that she will be this kind of mother in law? Once her child reports her husband, she would gladly support her to pack out and move back to her parents' home?

So many things running through my mind at this time but let me stop here.

My advice, seek God's face before you choose whether to fight this through or not. It could be for your good you know. It could also be that you need to talk some things through and take certain stands.

Peace!

Dura Johnson

2 months ago

Why are some parents like this for God's sake? Everybody just flexing their Ego. I will suggest that the guy pray about this for a solution because this is seriously beyond me.