Well, I begin to wonder what goes around on Campus between guys and girls who claim to love each other or one another.
Then this question begins to roll down my mind, is this love?
Is this true love as people profess?.
Very quickly I got answers to my questions as I sought and thought about what love is and what love isn't.
Now, what is love?
Some people easily say that "Love is a name, the other part I won't like to say here".
Some other will say that "Love is a feeling or affection you have for someone".
All are correct really.
Google also defines love as the most powerful emotion a human being can experience.
The strange thing is, that almost nobody knows what love is. Why is it so difficult to find love? That is easy to understand, if you know that the word “love” is not the same as one’s feeling of love.
The word “love” is used and abused for the expression of different sets of feelings.
The word love is used as an expression of affection towards someone else (I love you) but it also expresses pleasure (I love chocolate). To make it a little more complicated, the word “love” also expresses a human virtue that is based on compassion, affection and kindness. This is a state of being, that has nothing to do, with something or someone outside yourself. This is the purest form of love.
Well I will like to list down some other characteristics of love which includes:
* Love is long suffering or enduring, this means that it can stand the test of time, be it hard or good times.
* Love is kind. Kindness is a state of having a charitable behavior. It is giving something unconditionally.
* Love is selfless. Love does not hold on to self. It exhibits less concern for self but more concern for others. Love is preferring others.
* Love is not provoking. Provocation is when you annoy or cause someone to be angry. Love is not appealing i.e does not accuse others.
* Love thinks good about others.
* Love is bearing one another's burdens.
* Love is believing the other, not always going about others with suspicion.
* Love is hopeful.
* Love is enduring.
Having talked about love, what it is, I will also have to tell us what love isn't.
* Love is not selfishness, "I have it but I cannot share with you". This is real wickedness and is out of love.
* Love is not unkind.
* Love is not easily provoked.
* Love is not suspicious.
* Love is not untrue.
* Love is not LUST.
Yes, love is not LUST. Then what is lust? I would like to tell you that, that feeling you have and you call love might be lust.
Now, lust is a feeling of strong desire, especially of a sexual nature.
English dictionary further explains it as a general want or longing for something, (not necessarily sex).
If you will agree with me well, you'll know that the bracket means that sex is involved. Now, should sex be involved in true love between guys and girls who professed to love each other?
Well, some will try to argue this but the truth remains the truth, there is no truth modified. The truth is that sex is never a proof of real love.
He might say, I want to express my love to you by having sex. I want to let you know that at that point, he doesn't love you anymore or might be that he never loved you. As a lady, giving in to such offer from him will never increase your love in his heart, it will rather decrease and if you still want him, you will have to be under the slavery of sex because he will continue to have sex with you over and over again until you are no longer useful for yourself and the biggest shock is that once he has made you this way, he can and will never think of marrying you anymore because there's nothing new about you or your privacy.
As a guy too, don't tell me you love her and she gives you an impression to seduce you to sleep with her, try to control yourself and know that she's not interested in your success, she will only slow you down in life and she never loved you that way. The moment you give in to her the first time, YOU might not be free from this burden. She will always want to have you, by this you forget your primary assignment, you loose your dream and focus.
If you profess to love and all you demand for is sex. Then the only thing you do is lust and it's consequences are enormously deadly.
Let's stop love with sex, sex is Created by God and just for married people. Let's wait for our time.
Let's stop love by mouth, let's prove it.
* Not by sex but by sense.
* Not by mouth but by deeds.
* I believe in chastity.
* I support abstinence before marriage.
* I say yes to true love.
Because, I love you.
Ajayi Fogofoluwa Caleb.